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FINDING GOOD EVERYWHERE
Finding good in every aspect of your life is easy when you know here to look
You must understand that to the degree you give this moment your full attention and focus, will the next moment already be prepared for you. Life is not a series of obstacles to get through everyday. For what? When does the pleasure start? When you get home from work? When you get the kids to bed? When you get into bed? The pleasure is hiding in plain view within each moment we experience. The pleasure of recognizing there is no place else to be but in this moment. The pleasure of not running ahead worrying about stuff not even happening yet, the pleasure is in the faces of friends and colleagues that you normally only glance at. The pleasure is smiling right now and knowing things don’t have to be perfect in order to feel good right now. Today you must leave that lie behind and never allow it to control your attitude and mood again.
Look around and see all the good and safe conditions of this present moment e.g., alive, human, not in war zone, warm, having food to eat, dry, cool, clean, roof over your head, listening to music, able to drive and walk. The key here is to feel the same amount of positive emotion toward these, as you would experience negatively if you couldn’t do all of these things. Remember using these good feelings that come up to trigger DOS, are the cornerstone of this practice. Thinking about them, talking about them or just remembering them only, WILL NOT work because these brain chemicals, DOS are not released by your prefrontal cortex, the thinking part of your brain. They are released from the limbic system, your emotional center so you have to try to FEEL these good things to trigger their release.
GET OFF YOUR
Worry-Go-Round™
Worry-Go-Round™—
——The time you waste going in circles rehashing the same fears, concerns and memories you had from yesterday with no change. — Pretty painted horses optional.
The average person has between 32-48 thoughts per minute, according to the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at the University of Southern California and the National Science Foundation. That can add up to a total of 70,000 thoughts per day! Several studies have also shown that 80 percent of those thoughts are negative and 90 percent of those are very similar to the ones you had the day before!
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what you want to see
is What You Get
Understand this fact; It is your perspective that will determine if something is good or bad. “It’s never the problem but how you SEE the problem”. Your happiness will be a result of choices you make to see the world a certain way. This is why so many studies prove over and over again that 90% of our problems stem from how we are seeing things. The philosophical question, “Is the glass half full or half empty” does not adequately do the power of perspective any justice. The simple truth is, events happen - what makes them bad or good is simply what you decide to “think” or “believe” about them. As a blizzard is approaching the north east I am struck at how people see it so differently. Some like me have no use for snow and would rather not even have to look at it. I will pine for the sunny days of June and put on a dolphin and wave soundtrack. Others will be excited as it means great conditions for skiing, take pictures and post about how beautiful it is. The snow says two entirely different things to each of us according to what we like and want. Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder but so are problems.